It has to be asked...

This has been bugging me for a while so I'll just come out and ask it...


Since when has society deemed that a 'good' baby is a 'quiet' baby? Why do people tell me that Bryce is so 'good' because he doesn't go bonkers in a restaurant? Or the other day when Keith and I had a moderately long/completely boring appointment in a small cramped office the person we were meeting with commented on how 'good' he is, and then when he started fussing (after he was bored with his toys and all available snacks and run out) he was 'being good up until now' . I mean come on...what if I were to turn the table and say 'oh wow your baby is so quiet...he/she must be lacking in personality'. Are people trying to imply that a toddler who cannot fully express themselves yet, who is crying to be let out of their stroller (because one must assume that they just had some type of constrictive car ride), or is out of snacks, or has been playing with the same toy for the last hour, etc... is a bad one? If they are asserting their wants and needs in the only way they know how by banging, crying, yelling, hitting, etc... how does that make them 'bad'?


The only time I 'shush' my child is when he's upset and I try to calm him by 'shhhhhhh....shhhhhhh'.... if he is screaming from boredom etc....you won't find me shushing him. Expecting a child to sit in let's say a Doctor's office with very minimal things to do and sit there and be quiet for any given amount of time...yeah I don't think so. I appreciate that people think he's 'good' and I'll never correct them...but I'm here to tell you a quiet toddler or a loud one, they are both good. Both are blessings. There are no bad children.....there are children that misbehave but there are no bad children. What a negative thing to say.


In other news, we cheated on Paleo today but will be 100% again tomorrow. A good friend of ours is in town and it's her birthday so we went out to eat....and had dessert (oh for shame...does that make us bad???) Other than that it is going well :)